Social
interaction is regarded as being of the highest priority in Indian families,
and social bonds are expected to be long lasting. Even economic activities
that might in Western culture involve impersonal interactions are in India
deeply imbedded in a social nexus. All social interaction involves constant
attention to hierarchy, respect, honor, the feelings of others, rights and
obligations, hospitality, and gifts of food, clothing, and other desirable
items. Finely tuned rules of etiquette help facilitate each individual's
many social relationships.
Western
visitors to India are sometimes startled to find that important government
and business officials have left their posts--often for many days at a
time--to attend a cousin's wedding or participate in religious activities in
a distant part of the country. "He is out of station and will be back in a
week or two," the absent official's officemates blandly explain to the
frustrated visitor. What is going on is not laziness or hedonistic
recreation, but is the official's proper recognition of his need to
continually maintain his social ties with relatives, caste fellows, other
associates, and God. Without being enmeshed in such ties throughout life, a
person cannot hope to maintain long-term efficacy in either economic or
social endeavors. Social bonds with relatives must be reinforced at family
events or at rites crucial to the religious community. If this is not done,
people who could offer vital support in many phases of life would be
alienated.
If you are
fair-complexioned, blonde or red-haired - and especially if you are female -
chances are that you will be stared at continuously, specially in the
smaller towns. Don't be offended - they mean no harm, it is just curiosity.
Avoid crowds, especially if you are female.
Try to avoid shaking hands. Greet people with a 'namaste' (hands pressed
together at chest level as if in prayer). You will be appreciated for using
the Indian style of greeting. |